Why 30 Is Better Than 20

The Twenties were indeed awesome; but on  the flip side, there are somethings to appreciate about being 30...
Here's MY take on thirty in comparison to twenty

30 has  been great! It took some getting use to  in the beginning, but when I fully  embraced it, I realized that being 30 wasn't so bad after all…..  These are my top SEVEN reasons "Why 30 is better than 20". Why seven you ask… well duh!  That's my favorite number…

I). I can finally say "I know what I want in life" and really mean it. See, when I was 20, I was just really figuring things out. I was still trying to find my way in the world.  If you would've asked me what I wanted at 20, I probably would've described a fairytale of a life, where everything would be perfect.  I would have a dream career, marry my high school sweetheart, and ride off into the sunset with out a care in the world (ok, this is a bit of a stretch, but you get the point). Today, I understand that  my Imperfekt life is what makes me human, we are all subject to mistakes-it's whether or not we learn from them that  matters most. 

II). I actually think before I speak… I know that sounds a little cliche' but it's the truth. Honey, when I was twenty, I was too busy "keeping it real" and "Telling it like it is".  Now, don't get it twisted, I'm not saying I turned 30 and decided to  lay down and take it, because thats just not my style-I wasn't raised that way.  What I am saying is-I say what needs to be said in a tactful manner, my thoughts and words are  calculated. I tend to analyze the situation and think with " The end in mind". in doing this, I  get better results. Instead of losing potential friends and missing out on opportunities, I seek resolutions to problems.  Let's face it, keeping it real can actually result in talking yourself out of what could be the opportunity of a life time. Furthermore, you could miss out on one of the best gifts in the world…. FRIENDSHIP! I am sure many of you (especially if  you have lived to be 30) can think of one moment in your life where you kept it real and it backfired.  If not, keep livin' and keep on keeping it real….

III). My finances are much better at 30 than they were at 20. Shoot, at twenty Ramen was my friend, heck it was considered a meal, now I have that Kobe beef money!

IV). Why settle for a boy when you can have a MAN. Chile, this is the real of the real right here. At twenty I didn't know the difference between a boy and a MAN.  At twenty I was madly in love with a boy, and no one could tell me that we weren't suppose to be together forever. I loved his dirty draws you hear me….. I went through the phase of checking his cell phone to see who he was calling, worrying about where he was spending his time when we weren't together, dealing with all of the rumor mill that poured in from the streets, you know, his friends and my friends. At thirty, I can say I am married to a MAN who appreciates me being a WOMAN. We have trust in our relationship and we can appreciate each other for who we are. We have this thing called communication on our side. When we have differences, we work it out.

V).  I have REAL FRIENDS in my circle. I'm talking genuine friends.  Not the kind of friends that talk to me and then run off  and talk about me…. I did away with those in my twenties. Now that I'm thirty, I'm more selective of the people I surround myself with.

VI).  I can't care less about someone else's opinion of how I live MY life…. key word people…. MY life! God granted us all a free will, ya dig?  The life he gave ME is MINE to live. When I was younger, I wasted a lot of time worrying about what other people thought of me. Not anymore, I do whats right for me, what benefits my family.  I no longer entertain the talk of "If I were you I would" because the fact is, YOU ARE NOT ME… I am me and you are you…. you do what works for you and let me do what works for me. This is not to say I am above a word from the wise, because we can all learn something from someone. I'm simply saying I don't let other peoples OPINIONS effect my life decisions, especially when the decisions they make in their life aren't benefiting them.

VII). My living arrangements have improved drastically. I own my home, and that's something I'm proud of. When I was twenty, I didn't own anything but my name.